My high school and Scramble with Friends buddy the Crafty Pumpkin had a baby 10 days before I did, at the same hospital, and we’ve been talking about the experience. She did up a nice post (the above link) about enjoying the first few weeks of her new baby because they go by so quickly. I’ve been dreading/complaining about the first few weeks since, well, before I got pregnant, because my primary memories of Elena’s first few weeks were complete misery. After reading her post I vowed to try a little harder….
I have tried harder. It’s still not my favorite time. But the first few weeks of Zoe’s life have not been a complete misery. So, success?
My brain has already made a solid effort at blocking out the past couple weeks. Yay, brain! But here are a few things that I remember, before I forget them.
I can only speak to the nursing experience because that’s what we did both times. And speaking to the nursing experience, all that you think about in the first 1-2 weeks of the baby’s life is the nursing experience. This blog is intended for general consumption so I don’t want to go into a lot of details about the nursing experience, but suffice it to say that when your child is eating every 2-3 hours and your body has to learn this new trick of feeding a child who needs to eat every 2-3 hours, and your baby has to learn this new trick of eating, it takes up a lot of time/energy/effort/random Google searches. In my experience, everyone has some sort of issue with nursing, it’s just a matter of what.
For those of you interested in details: Zoe’s issues included being tongue tied and having a fast let-down, which contributed to latching issues. (Elena had supply issues that required use of the supplemental nursing system.)
Ben was off the first two weeks. (He’s back to work today for the first time.) We tried a variety of things to allow us both to get some large uninterrupted chunks of sleep. After a good bit of trial and error with timing a supplemental bottle feeding that generally resulted in us both being awake for large chunks of time, we learned on Friday that the best solution for securing large chunks of uninterrupted sleep is for us to both go to sleep at 9PM. So if you need to reach us after 9PM, well, we’ll be awake again at like midnight. Also, is there any way to increase the capacity of our DVR, because we are going to get really behind on our shows.
Physically I feel much better having the baby on the outside, almost immediately. I say “almost” because I *thought* I was doing really really well, and then we went to Ben’s parents’ house the day after we got out of the hospital and as soon as we got there I realized why people don’t usually leave their houses for a while. Clearly I’m not very good at resting in the best of times. I’ve managed to get some decent rest in this time.
A lot of the past two weeks has been coordinating Elena’s schedule and it’s worked out well. Thanks to some awesome friends, she’s been able to go out and have a good time with her little buddies, have sleepovers, etc. People have asked how she likes being a big sister. Generally she does like it, she is concerned about how her sister is doing and checks on her frequently. The hit it’s taking to the amount of attention she’s used to is by far her biggest adjustment. We’re working on that, and I think she is too.
Ending on that note, and to avoid a words-only post, here is a picture of Elena and Zoe.
Up next: a post that will involve something other than the new baby.